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"This isn't a male agenda. The law says there's no such thing as father's rights. I would beg to differ. I would say there's mother's rights, children's rights, and father's rights. But once you have that argument you have a parity and equality of rights. And one party's rights cannot be dominant over anothers' - it just can't be - then you don't get rights, then you don't get equality, then you don't get justice - you get injustice.
Bob Geldof - Father's Day Blues - the Trevor MacDonald Tonight programme 17 June 2002. (SPIG)

Excerpts from:
Dad's in charge: Ranks of fathers with custody of their children increase
Sally Kalson, Post-Gazette Staff Writer March 16, 1998


There's no question that men and women in general have different parenting styles, said Wade F. Horn, a clinical child psychologist and president of the National Fatherhood Initiative in Gaithersburg, Md.
"Men and women bring different things to the parenting equation, and neither is more important than the other," Horn said.
Underlying it all is a gradual shift in attitudes about men's and women's roles, according to James Levine, director of The Fatherhood Project at The Family and Work Institute in New York City.
"As more men come forward and say they want to be the custodial parent, more courts -- not many, but more -- are deciding that way," Levine said. "It's an evolution, not a revolution."
Often, though, the public's image of single fathers doesn't include these day-to-day matters. Instead, it focuses on an unfair stereotype of the bitter man who wrested his children away from their mother in an acrimonious divorce.
Divorcing men hear horror stories about fathers who don't get to see their children any more, often because of child support disputes. So some have become more aggressive in seeking custody out of fear that, without it, they'll be reduced to visitors in their children's lives.
"People think that if a father has custody it's because there was a big battle," Sims said. "That happens, but most people can't afford it. My story isn't that unusual. We are not all angry dads. Most of us just want to be involved with our children."