Power & Control Wheel

The Duluth Model (Pence & Paymar,1986)

Violence

Physical

Sexual

USING COERCION AND THREATS

Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her

  • threatening to leave her, to commit suicide, to report her to welfare
  • making her drop charges
  • making her do illegal things

USING INTIMIDATION

Making her afraid by using looks, actions gestures

  • smashing things
  • destroying her property
  • abusing pets
  • displaying weapons

USING EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Putting her down

  • making her feel bad about herself
  • calling her names
  • making her think she’s crazy
  • playing mind games
  • humiliating her
  • making her feel guilty

USING ECONOMIC ABUSE

preventing her from getting or keeping a job

  • making her ask for money
  • giving her an allowance
  • taking her money
  • not letting her know about or have access to family income

USING MALE PRIVILEGE

treating her like a servant

  • making all the big decisions
  • acting like the “master of the castle”
  • being the one to define men’s and women’s roles

USING ISOLATION

Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, where she goes

  • limiting her outside involvement
  • using jealousy to justify actions

USING CHILDREN

Making her feel guilty about the children

  • using the children to relay messages
  • using visitation to harass her
  • threatening to take the children away

MINIMIZING, DENYING, AND BLAMING

Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously

  • saying the abuse didn’t happen
  • shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
  • saying she caused it.